Sweet Dreams (Fin)

Fairytales don't always come true...
So what would life be without a little adversity and disappointment?  Life can be described as a collection of experiences strategically situated to encourage us to be stronger individuals. Life teaches us to survive. However, when life encounters us, we must be open minded enough to realize that everything happens for a reason, and that reason is usually to enhance our understanding.
We come into each others lives for a reason. Maybe it is to be soulmates, maybe just friends, or maybe simply business partners.  But even deeper than that, we could possibly cross each others paths for a short moment in time just to have an impact on one another's life journey, and we have to be accepting of either scenario whenever we meet someone.
Now I understand -- every nice woman I meet is not destined to be THE ONE.
My encounter with Lisa showed me that the primary objective in the beginning should be ESTABLISHING FRIENDSHIP. Of course this is a cliché sentiment that we typically go about wrong way. Instead of making a relationship the end destination when we meet someone of the opposite sex, the focus should be placed on exploring if the person could one day be considered a friend. Are they someone that you can have fun with, share with, cry with, and count on. It proven that all good romantic relationships are sustained by true friendships. This approach is also less stressful. After a friendship is in place, the parties can decide if a more romantic situation should be sought out, or if not, there's still a real friendship to fall on. No longer is the dread of having to go through "break-up" procedures every 90 days after you meet someone new.

Lesson #2: Ration,  Ration,  Ration

Don't talk too much, Don't share too much, Don't stay too much - too fast. There must be patience and pace in the beginning and the cart can never go before the wagon. It is unwise to turn way up and show too much interest before really knowing the inside of the person you are trying to woo. On the flip, LADIES, you shouldn't expect the guy to go overboard just for the sake of their liking. Keep it fair, despite what the media tells you. Expecting anyone to do more than you are willing to do at any given time is the setup for a breakdown. It's difficult to survive any type of unbalanced relationship. - Think about it.

Now it makes sense. Goodbye Love, since fairytales don't always come true....But I'll be waiting on my perfect REALITY. --- BG